Some kids are more confident by nature. How do you help those less sure children develop a sense of confidence in themselves? Read on for eight important tips to help build confidence in your child.
Children are some of the best imitators in the world. They watch and hear everything we do. Be sure and show your children what it means to be confident in yourself. This is, of course, harder to do than say, but it is important to show your kids what confidence looks like. Instead of talking about how you need to start your diet tomorrow, praise your body for all that it does for you!
2. Watch how you talk
We are here to help build our kids up. Watching how we talk to our kids is vital. Do we show our kids how funny we think they are or that their opinions and thoughts matter to us? Reflecting positive images to your child will go a long way to helping a strong sense of self emerge.
3. Give responsibilities
Let your children develop a sense of competence and what it feels like to successfully complete a task by giving them age-appropriate tasks or chores around the house. Whether it’s feeding the dog every morning or putting their clean socks away, giving kids a sense of responsibility helps them realize their contributions to the family unit are very important.
4. Own those feelings
Help your child express, not repress, their feelings. This gives your child the space and freedom to express what they are feeling without feeling certain emotions are “bad.” This, of course, does not mean a child is free to explode at every outburst or do mean things (i.e. hit a friend when mad), but it gives kids the chance to express their feelings comfortably and to exercise those feelings in an appropriate way.
5. Choice, choice, choice
Kids, especially little kids, have little say in how their days are going to go. Giving them choices when you can (i.e. do you want a banana or apple with your breakfast?) goes a long way to helping them feel more in control and more powerful. Does it really matter if they wear that same striped shirt for the third straight day?
6. Let them struggle (a little bit)
Is your daughter trying to build a tower out of blocks and they keep falling down? Does your son want to play soccer, but doesn’t know where the soccer ball is? Try not to swoop in at the first sign of trouble. Give your child the chance to struggle and figure out a solution on their own. Of course if your child is doing something unsafe, that is a different story, but look for chances for your children to take healthy risks and figure out solutions on their own.
7. Help develop their talents
Is your toddler a budding artist or does he seem to enjoy playing music? Encourage your children to find an area of interest and then complete a task in that area of interest. Even if it’s playing a song on the piano, completion will give them a sense of accomplishment and pride.
8. Try again
When things don’t go your child’s way, encourage your child to try again. Brainstorm ways to find a solution to a problem or other ways to accomplish a certain task, but helping your child try again when things don’t go as planned the first time will help instill a sense of determination and dedication.